Day 30 of #100daysoflovingmoney
"Money is like you and me, it is attracted to Respect and Appreciation"
The messages I keep receiving over the last week is APPRECIATION. I keep reading things and hearing things and remembering things all around looking at what I presently have and appreciating the heck out of it. My first thought was not loose change, it was the "fun money" I had in my wallet, it was the ability to pay my bills, it was the fact that I could go to the grocery store and not sweat to buy stuff we wanted. I'll be honest as great as those things were --they were not pulling on the ol' heartstrings like I was hoping. Maybe too many years of taking that stuff for granted.
It really came together for me today honestly. During this Action challenge I have to "give away" money I gave my son $0.55, in which he said thanks and left it on the table for 2 days and forgot all about it. So I sat there and scooped it up into my change jar. We have had a change jar for as long as I can remember and when it fills up I take it to the bank. This typically yields me $75-$100 easily within a few months time of not really even thinking about it. Any loose change we have or find goes into that jar. I don't think I thought much about that jar until THAT MOMENT !!
I knew THIS is where my appreciation was going to start and actually it DID bring me way more joy to think of the power of loose change than I thought it would. Want to hear another cool story about the power of loose change?? I thought so.
Just recently my daughter was collecting for Leukemia, for her school--they had a contest to see who could collect the most. So she went around and started asking for change. In 1 Day --1 DAY !!!! She collected $140 with loose change from people. That was my first inkling into the power of change. Think about all the lemonades stands we had as kids and the power and prestige of those quarters rolling in. I mean a few hours selling lemonade could fund that new toy you had your eye on ! If I was going to start REALLY appreciating my money and what I already had available to me --I wanted to start here--with loose change:
I am going to keep my change from laying around being disrespected and put it up to be valued
I am going to pick up change on the street and be super grateful it found me
I am going to honor every penny just as much as I would a $20 bill
I am going to give change away as a token to how much I honor its place in my life
Here is how Marie Forelo found her respect for change on the street !
Marie and I must be on the same wave length because keeping my bills as she referred to it as tight and right is something I have done for years too !! Mine came from working in Fast Food and when we had to get the money ready to send to the bank it always had to be facing the same direction, organized by denominations and nice and flat. You have NO IDEA what lifelong skills you will pick up from your first few jobs !!
So as I finish this up --my goal is to go around my house and find loose change. I have never been this excited in to crawl around my house to look for tiny things. I am a little afraid of what else I may find though !!!
Holistic Coach her recently decided to take herself on a 100 Day self made Challenge to Bust through the Limiting Beliefs around money and how it holding her back.
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Day 29 of #100daysoflovingmoney
There has to be some Action in this challenge--The body needs to know that your new thoughts are serious--that you mean Business !!
So the first Action step I took was recommended in the Book--Your a Badass Making Money !
The challenge was to give away any amount of money at least once a day for 29 days
Could be a $.01 or $100 --or anywhere in between. The idea is to help "let go" of money and circulate it !! I took this one on--because I tend to hang onto money very tightly in a lot of areas. Sometimes so tightly that it creates a lot of stress for me to let go of it --so I knew this was a great place to start !!
Several years ago--The owners from Cafe Gratitude--were here providing workshops to help my friends Natalie and Mike open up this amazing cafe here in Kansas City. As we are sitting there taking in all of their wisdom from day 1, they invite us all to "grab whatever money you have in your pocket or purse and hold onto it --but get it out where it is visible."
So I start internally panicking a little about what we were going to do with this money--I was pretty sure they were going to ask us to hand it over so I most likely grabbed a $5 in my current stage of stinginess. After everyone had their money in hand they asked us all to come up to the stage and get in a big circle with our money still in our hand. When we were all in a big circle --we were instructed to hand your money to the person on your left--and whenever your hand was empty--hold up your right hand high so anyone could see that it was up !
I was like well, there went my lunch money ! So we got this party started and handed our money to the left, my hand was empty and I raised my right hand. You know what the person to my right did ? They put more money in my hand !! Then I passed it to the left again and raised my right hand--and guess what--more money showed up in my hand !!!! This went on for several minutes until they told us to STOP. Whatever money was left in your hand you got to keep.
For me I ended up empty handed, Some people ended up with the same as what they started with and some ended up with more. I went back to my seat feeling like that was really cool but now I was out of $5 that I was going to use for lunch. The experiment was NOT OVER. The instructors then proceeded to ask the group that if you ended up empty handed or with less than you had, this was your opportunity to ask the group, the "community" for whatever you needed. So for example I was going to use that for my lunch so I raised my hand and said I needed help to pay for lunch ( I had other money) but I asked in good fun. A gentleman that ended up with double of what he originally had hollered out that he would buy my lunch.
Another participant raised their hand and said that was going to be my gas money. So several people in the group offered to give them money for gas. Do you see where I am going with this. This was the BIG revelation ! This was about letting go and circulating but this was also about community and when we work together as a community --everyone is taken care of !!
If you have some --you give.
If you need some --you ask
I have never forgot about that day and I think of that exercise often, its interesting that I have not put it into action more than I have for as impactful as it was. I suppose all things come to those in the right timing.
For this "Letting Go " challenge, I am on Day 3. So far so good but I have yet to give too much away. The real challenge will come when I decide to give some of those higher dollar amounts. Or maybe it won't. I am up for pushing myself though and there is nothing like handing someone money --Just Because !
Day 1--Gave $1.00 to my daughters friend
Day 2--Gave $.55 to my 10 year old
Day 3--Gave $5.00 to a random kid in Target (I did ask his mom first--for all of you that think that might be creepy !! )
Day 4 and on ....---TBD
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Day 28 of #100daysoflovingmoney
How much Wishing and Wanting does it take to make something happen ? I was finding that I was doing A WHOLE lot of wishing lately but not much DOING.
I remember hearing someone talk one time about the difference between wishing and wanting. They said to write down all the things you wish or want and go through the list one by one and ask yourself "Is this something I am willing to put any effort into making it happen?" If not --then its a wish and MOVE ON--only put you focus on the things you WANT--the things you will actually put your energy and effort into.
Yesterday it was as if Jen Sincero (Your a Badass at Making Money) spoke right to my heart and soul. She said "A firm decision sets everything in motion" !!!! I mean if you could have seen my face in that moment--it was like someone hit me over the head with a 2 x 4 and the world made so much sense !!!
Do you know how many times I counsel people on this VERY thing !! I like to say we can not be supported if we don't give ourselves a direction to BE supported from. One of my favorite messengers on this planet is Peta Kelly (The Earth is Hiring)-
The first time I saw this video --I knew she was right and I have been sharing this with people ever since--I suppose it is time I actually walked the talk...
My firm Decision was This: I am making $__________ (I have a $$) Its a BADASS number --one that is going to push me WAY out my comfort zone!!
That's it--That is the direction--That is the choice. I am not wasting anymore time wishing for things to be different. I am choosing to WANT and to DO--I am making the decision to move in that direction with all the energy and effort I can !
Do I have any idea of HOW I am going to do this --HECK NO!!! Not a clue--not an inkling--however I am choosing to be EXTREMELY open to the opportunities and the possibilities that are presented to me and Pray that I am willing to step into them ! Just since this
(2 x 4) struck me yesterday and
I made the Decision it is like a fire has been lit underneath me--
I have a:
and that in itself feels amazing !
So of course my close friends who I call my wise counsel--had to ask me the question Why ?? They were helping me to get clear on the WHY so that it would drive me more to the goal.
I have 2 Why's
1. Because I want to know that I CAN--You know Athletes will stretch themselves to go well beyond their limits, not always for medals or money but because you get this determination to see what you are capable of --and that is what I want too. What am I capable of ? Can I create something from nothing ? Can I push myself to do things I would have never thought possible ?
2. I am a conscious awakened soul who cares deeply about humanity and this planet and when you put money into the hands of souls like me that want to do amazing things--then I want all the money I can !!!! Steve Irwin gave me the best gift today when this video showed up on my Facebook Feed first thing this morning !!!
Just watch --he says it BEST and you will get EXACTLY what I mean !!
I am highly anticipating that I will be pushed and pushed and there will be things that I won't want to do --but I am going to find a way to push through that FEAR and carry on -- I may need a little help from my friends !!!
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Day 27 of #100daysoflovingmoney
Any Chance you are like me and think the first picture is where Health is at ?? Well your right, however what I am discovering is an area of health that I have never considered as being part of the core areas to address may actually be the biggest one of them ALL !!!
For the better part of 10 years I have concentrated my focus on nutritional health --a few years back I set myself in motion to understand and embody my spiritual --emotional---mental health. Of course we all know physical health is right up there but does anyone EVER talk about our financial health ?? NEVER --well at least not in my circles or my family !
As I started this money challenge you know what I noticed is the amount of ANXIETY, DEPRESSION and overall STRESS my Beliefs and Current reality of money has caused me ! I can only imagine what kind of toll it takes on a person who is in much worse money struggles than I .
By definition Financial Health is described as :
The dynamic relationship of one’s financial and economic resources as they are applied to or impact the state of physical, mental and social well-being.
I am realizing where we are in our relationship with our money is a HUGE factor in our overall health ! So can we start to have these conversations, can we start to teach other and our kids the role they have with their money can be crucial to their health as much as what we eat and how we move our bodies.
It does not take a genius to figure out that STRESS is like putting a bomb in the body --one that drips a slow leak of acid making you feel worse and worse every day until the day it explodes and you suffer a physical or mental breakdown !! Money for a lot us feels like that slow leaking bomb.
I am understanding my own personal relationship with money as been so toxic and twisted with such anxiety and fear. So I had to ask myself --if I were to treat money like a relationship I was trying to repair --what is the first thing I would do ?? How would I move into this relationship so that it feels healthier for me mentally and physically ?
My first thought was I needed to FORGIVE ---isn't that what any relationship needs to restart and rebuild ??
I am forgiving myself for the way I have treated money
I am forgiving myself for making money the enemy
I am forgiving myself for not knowing what I know now
I am forgiving myself for thinking money was responsible for making me happy
I am forgiving myself for thinking money was the solution to all my problems/ and or that is was the reason for my problems
I think this is a great start to repair this relationship and work on my Health from this vantage point !!
Since I am HUGE advocate for taking our Health into our own hands --why should this area not be included in the core areas of how we take care of ourselves !!!
Here is a great article if you are wanting to understand a little bit more of what financial health is about (Click Here)
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Day 26 of #100daysoflovingmoney
Most people LOVE the weekends--I DO NOT ! To me they are endless hours of trying to fill the time with things to do. Things to keep myself busy, things to keep the kids off screens, things to create family time, things to feel like I am doing all the things to make those 2 days magical, special and fulfilling !!!-- ARGHHHHHHH I love when Mondays come around because the pressure is off to fill all that space !!
So here we are on another day where we are all sitting around and no one has plans other than my husband who is thrilled to go to the grocery store AGAIN ( I am not kidding) this guy LOVES to go to the grocery store --that is idea of fun. Him and my daughter just love to go as many times a week as they can--but I am over here agonizing that I need to get my 10 year old off the screen, I have not spent near enough time with my older boys and I am not interested in doing what my daughter wants to do because it all revolves around spending money !!
There is that thing again--that thing that is always looming in my mind about spending money !! I actually don't mind spending money on things that come up that we want to do--what I can't stand is when we go and spend money to just "entertain" us ! Plus whatever we choose to do is (times 4 or 6 ). So a $20 activity is now $100 activity that last for about an hour or two. Then what ???
At the present moment -I don't whether I am more conflicted with the entertaining part or the money part or BOTH ? All's I know is that pretty much most weekends, most school breaks, and especially Summer - this is my headspace that I am in. I am sure it does not help that it is cold, windy and sloshy.
I would love to report back that by day 26 I was well on my way of being in a great headspace about money but I have a feeling the first half of this challenge is wading through all the BS I have built up over 40+ years. Just like I counsel people with their health--It Ain't going to be all fixed in 30 days so get use to the long term goal !
So today in my meditation I will open myself up to these questions:
Where am I still feeling lack ?
What is this pressure to entertain all about ?
Why are these two together such a Hot SPOT for me ?
Then we will see where those questions lead me to next !!
Money, mindset, money story, family time, beliefs, limiting beliefs
Day 25 #100daysoflovingmoney
I am sure a lot of you that live around me --are feeling this same sort of boredom that comes with being in your house way too many days in a row because of the weather !! 🌧❄️
I had resolved to not spend my "fun money" on so many snack foods and/ or liquor but today sitting in the house "again" with no real plans and no motivations to make plans --it felt like the only thing that would satisfy my restlessness.
I ended up not getting either --because once when I thought of going out to get something it was hailing and the 2nd time I went to go out I got all the way there and did not have my wallet !!
Thank you universe for having my back !
I hate this feeling of boredom--I find myself here a lot--I have lots of "things" that could be done--lots of hobbies to do but nothing is floating my boat. This is usually when I get outside, it forces me to move, it pulls up my vibration and I am back in business again. When I can't get outside --i find myself restless again.
This boredom I suppose is where we get in trouble with just sitting around eating too much, buying crap on amazon that we don't need, watching an excessive amount of Netflix, etc. I am not sure I want to play with boredom like this anymore.
I remember hearing a podcast one time on changing your perspective on boredom so I started looking it up to see if it would help me shift my perspective. It did help and YES I still had manage to have a glass of whisky and found some chocolate in the house ! So I covered all my bases !!
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Day 24 of #100daysoflovingmoney
I made some MONEY today ANNNNNDDDDD I have a potential opportunity for some money to come to me here soon----HOW WONDERFUL--RIGHT ?!!
I got excited danced around --said how grateful I was and then it happened....Without any warning I reverted RIGHT back to my old thought.
The thought---"Too bad this was just for today" and
" This was probably just a fluke"
Oh my GOSH--Why do we ALWAYS seem to find ways to sabotage ourselves right when things are starting to shift in the direction we want ?
Check out some of the Main Reasons we self sabotage ourselves--I found myself in a few of these--READ HERE
I am getting clever enough these days that I caught those statements and snatched them right after they came to my mind and I said NO !!!!!
No -I am not Allowing myself to believe that anymore
No-I will not let that become my scapegoat
No-I will not let these thoughts take control Any Longer
As author Elizabeth Gilbert put it, “You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.”
Self-sabotage is any behavior, thought, emotion or action that holds you back from getting what you consciously want.
Self-sabotage is the conflict that exists between conscious desires and unconscious wants that manifest in self-limiting patterns of behavior.
Self-sabotage not only prevents you from reaching your goals but also plays the part of a safety mechanism that protects you against dissapointment.-Adam Sicinski
Here is Adams article (HERE) on not only identifying what it is but how to move through it
Day 23/100 of #100daysoflovingmoney
Today I confronted my Victim Story !!! Yesterday I discovered I had some really intense feelings around an investment we had. I probably knew that I felt pretty bad about this money for a long time but I just kept trying to "let it go" !
Here is the truth I have come to realize about "Letting GO"--if you really get to the root of something there is actually nothing you have to let go of--it just dissipates almost instantly !! Trust me I have done enough healing work--I know this is absolutely true. When we can't let go of things--it usually because we have not really gotten underneath it enough to understand it fully and why we feel the way we do !
I came to understand yesterday through the help of my meditations and good friends who know how to help me dig deep-that this money I felt so icky about was all centered around the relationship I had with my father in law and his connection with it. He has passed away 20 years ago and I am still carrying the hurt and victim story I gave myself from all of those years ago !!!!
*** Clearing Negative Energy around Money--Read Here to one of my favorite authors Amy B Scher about this subject ***
The relationship with my father in law was not an easy one and he was not an easy man to please. He was one, where if you did things "RIGHT", whatever was right according to his standards, you were in his good graces and if you did not meet his expectations you were Not good enough !! I don't know that my husband ever felt this way but from the time I was introduced to this man, I felt that I was always being Tested and most of the time I failed !
In one phone conversation I confronted him on why he was so tough on me and that for my husbands sake I wanted to make it right and he basically told me " I could not do anything right" !!! Talk about a blow to a young woman who was getting ready to be a part of this new family !
So I carried that story with me for the next 23 years--that I was "not good enough" I was "not responsible enough" and when he passed and we inherited everything he owned and with that came all the feelings I had around with it all !
So today I spent some time with him --His Higher Self and Mine in a conversation--the first part I just told him how I felt about everything--the good, the bad and the ugly. Then I proceeded to tell him how I see myself now.
If you have someone in your life --alive or deceased that you have a hard time making amends with this is a great tool and very powerful !!!
Tool for communicating soul to soul --Click Here
Today I went back and had another conversation with him --and this time I was feeling such gratitude !!!
**He is forcing me to stand up for myself
**He is teaching me that I have to be the one to love and accept myself
**He gave me my first introduction to investing
**He made me step up and be the bad ass I am
**He also is teaching me how to appreciate and value money
I am sure this relationship with my deceased father in law will continue to morph and reshape as I do--however I can for the first time talk about that money without feeling my throat close up and without tears in my eyes.
I no longer need to be the victim any longer !!!
Thank you Bob --I am grateful for you
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Excerpt from a dialogue with John de Ruiter from the March 18, 2001 meeting in Edmonton, Canada
Q: I’ve been seeing how control and tightness exist in the core of what I was born into. There’s now so much more space for real living than I chose before, and this tightness also affects my relationship with money. Can you speak about that, and the tightness at my core?
John: That is tied into personal survival and maintaining being the centre of the universe. Instead of having a personal identity, which separates you from the rest of the universe wherein you are using the universe in order to cope, instead of maintaining a personal identity and being separate, from the universe, know your self within the whole universe. Then, instead of there being the need to personally survive, what survives is the beingness within you.
Money is energy. Do you relate to such energy with personal rigidity or a sweet openness? The energy of money is to be integrated: knowing how to be in the energy of money, while at the same time knowing your self and not needing to have a personal identity within the energy of money.
Q: It seems to go so deep. I don’t understand it but I know my life’s been driven by this control around money.
John: Your relationship with money is your mind on display. It displays the present nature of your mind. The mind doesn’t change easily; it is first governed by patterns. When you’re knowing your real self in context of those patterns, then you’re confronted by those patterns. They would have you being a different way than how you actually know your true self to be. It is being your true self, in context of those mental patterns that invites those patterns to open. That is change. You cannot change the patterns. You can only be your real self in the midst of them. That causes the patterns of your mind to transform. The patterns of your mind will match what you are being. They do change by transforming, but that is slow.
The change within your own heart can be in an instant. The mind matches slowly, and the body matches even slower. Your mind is a display of what you came into this world with, and your mind is also a display of what you were being. Let gentleness manage your money.
Q: I don’t think I know how.
John: Be open to being gentle with your money. Then the energy of what money is, is open and soft within you. Instead of money and the energy of it being cold within you, let money and the energy of it within you be warm – warm, living cash, instead of cold cash. There is a beingness to money. Find it. Have a relationship with the beingness of what money is. That is having a real relationship with the love in money, instead of the love of money.
Day 21 of #100daysoflovingmoney
With the Full Moon tonight it seemed like the perfect time to Release all of the Limiting Beliefs around Money that have held me back !
Here is my plan:
🌙Light a Candle--put some nice music on
🌙Write out the Beliefs that I am ready to let go of
🌙Be intentional and Release all of these by ripping them up and burning them !
🌙Get myself into some great thoughts and go to bed !
It usually does not take me too long to do this process and it is such a great moment to move forward using the energy of the full moon !
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Amy Lynn Sell
My goal is to give people a new perspective that enables us all to have health without a prescription. Mind Body work is my passion. I provide education and resources to those who are open to addressing their health through 5 Key areas of Nutrition, Emotions, Physical, Spiritual, and Energetic areas of the body.