Day 41 of #100daysoflovingmoney
During a recent visit with my parents I could not help but notice the words and ideas expressed about money. It got me thinking about that the beliefs, ideas and general way that deal with money and how so much of has come down through our parents, their parents, and so on !
There are 2 main things that were high lighted for me during this visit. First of all, if don't take time to stop and ask ourselves "Do I believe this ___________about money" then how will ever know if our beliefs are our own or if they are just beliefs that we have collected unconsciously over our lifetime.
The second is that each generation had their own challenges that shaped their financial beliefs. There were hardships that we will never be able to comprehend during our own life time.
Those hardships can create such deep grooves of beliefs about people and money that has just been adopted from generation to generation with no one to stop and question whether that belief is nessessary or even applicable anymore.
I can see why we do it. We are born into our families and at the core of every human there is a basic need of belonging. With that need we adapt to belong, to be loved to be part of clan. So if we don't see things eye to eye with our clan we might be labeled as the "difficult" one or the "Black Sheep of the family". I am pretty sure that is not on the top of most peoples agenda is to be the odd one out of the fam.
I found myself being just that person. I am the idealist, the optimist, the dreamer. That is how I see it through my eyes. I have been labeled irresponsible, immature, and unrealistic.
The point is that we need people like us to break those family cycles that keep regurgitating a belief over and over again without anyone stopping to ask ---Why Do we Still Believe This ?? Isn't there another way to see things ?? Isn't there another way to operate going forward that feels more serving to myself and the whole ?
I will most likely ALWAYS ask those questions. I don't blame or shame anyone in any area of my family for what their beliefs are. I have not lived their life, I have not had their experiences that shape their world. I have my own world to shape and I am consciously choosing day by day what I want to believe going forward.
I hope my children find their own beliefs about money that is separate from mine, one that suits their lifetime and the way their economy is. I know that is hard to do when we as kids just absorb what our parents do more so than what they say.
This was actually a big factor in me doing this money challenge--I wanted to have a healthy relationship with money so that my actions reflected that and my kids would pick that up and not the toxic one that I had going in. Their beliefs are probably already settled in but that doesn't me that me shifting won't shift them as well.
To be honest my kids are GREAT teachers about money--because they don't HAVE hangups about money and I watch and learn from them everyday !!
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Amy Lynn Sell
My goal is to give people a new perspective that enables us all to have health without a prescription. Mind Body work is my passion. I provide education and resources to those who are open to addressing their health through 5 Key areas of Nutrition, Emotions, Physical, Spiritual, and Energetic areas of the body.